I am having such a difficult time with my twin 3 year olds. Getting them to listen is like pulling teeth. I would love to know what your ideas are on getting them under control
Dani, It's stinkin hard work! But I promise, the pay off is worth it! CONSISTENCY! when you tell them to stop, follow through! There are consequences to ALL of our behavior, good or bad. If we do something good, we have a good consequence (result). If we do something wrong, we have a bad consequence (result). This is how life works. The quicker we teach our children this, the happier they will be and the better they will be able to obey their heavenly Father. Obedience is a MUST! Follow through is hard work, especially when we are trying to change a bad habit of disobedience. They are used to hearing the nag or command and then proceeding how they always have, wether it's to sneak, wait til you walk away or flat out disobey right in front of your face. If we as parents do nothing about this, they will not every learn that they must do as they are told. We are doing them an injustice to let them get away with it. I say all of this to motivate you to work through the hard training of following through and being consistent. Decide what is most important to you. ONLY TELL THEM to stop if you TRULY mean it. If you realize you said something you didn't mean, explain it to them. They understand more than you think. Let them know what they CAN DO! Taking something away if they are abusing it doesn't work if they just grab the next thing. Our job is to train their heart, not the actions. If we teach them in their heart the right from the wrong, we won't always have to stand over them and make sure they do what's right. Out of the mouth is the overflow of the heart. Our actions say what's inside. If we only worry about the action and not the intent of the heart we again are doing them an injustice. I hope you recieve this with love, I am preaching to myself girl! We usually know what to do, it's just so DANG HARD TO DO IT! Love ya Cara
What Cara said is right on!! For more info on it check out Love and Logic or Boundaries with Kids. Both are excellent but Love and Logic gives you a lot of practical help with ideas of how to implement it.
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Gerrit
Dani,
It's stinkin hard work! But I promise, the pay off is worth it! CONSISTENCY! when you tell them to stop, follow through! There are consequences to ALL of our behavior, good or bad. If we do something good, we have a good consequence (result). If we do something wrong, we have a bad consequence (result). This is how life works. The quicker we teach our children this, the happier they will be and the better they will be able to obey their heavenly Father. Obedience is a MUST! Follow through is hard work, especially when we are trying to change a bad habit of disobedience. They are used to hearing the nag or command and then proceeding how they always have, wether it's to sneak, wait til you walk away or flat out disobey right in front of your face. If we as parents do nothing about this, they will not every learn that they must do as they are told. We are doing them an injustice to let them get away with it. I say all of this to motivate you to work through the hard training of following through and being consistent. Decide what is most important to you. ONLY TELL THEM to stop if you TRULY mean it. If you realize you said something you didn't mean, explain it to them. They understand more than you think. Let them know what they CAN DO! Taking something away if they are abusing it doesn't work if they just grab the next thing. Our job is to train their heart, not the actions. If we teach them in their heart the right from the wrong, we won't always have to stand over them and make sure they do what's right. Out of the mouth is the overflow of the heart. Our actions say what's inside. If we only worry about the action and not the intent of the heart we again are doing them an injustice.
I hope you recieve this with love, I am preaching to myself girl! We usually know what to do, it's just so DANG HARD TO DO IT!
Love ya
Cara
What Cara said is right on!! For more info on it check out Love and Logic or Boundaries with Kids. Both are excellent but Love and Logic gives you a lot of practical help with ideas of how to implement it.
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